Mario and I have been married for 8 years! That’s a long time to be with someone! In fact, I think it’s probably one of the craziest things either one of us has done! Devoting your life to one person ’til death do us part” is pretty far out. I know a lot of people have these expectations for what marriage will be and how their partner will be. I’m here to burst your social media fantasy of #relationshipgoals and #baecations haha!
The scariest truth about marriage is that you are marrying a COMPLETE STRANGER. Even if you guys have dated since high school, or have lived together. When the papers a signed and the rings are exchanged PEOPLE CHANGE! Mario and I were best friends before we got married after only 8 months of dating. The first year was really hard. We argued and fought all the time because the other person was not being our idea of what a spouse should be. He expected me to know everything going on his mind, and I expected him to be perfect mr. wonderful. It wasn’t realistic. What’s crazy is, like most couples, we never talked about what we thought marriage would be, we just jumped into it and it was a big mess.
I always wanted a marriage like what my parents had. Or what I thought they had. My parents divorced when I was in high school. From my point of view, my parents were the perfect couple, other couples loved being around them, they were affectionate in public and had beautiful kids and a perfect house in the city. I thought they had it all. Meanwhile underneath the surface, there was a lot of lying and infidelity. I realized that my parents basically just filled these roles and they completely denied who they truly were on the inside. That’s pretty dark to realize you had actors for parents for most of your childhood.
8 years with my husband has been a crazy ride. It’s funny, we have been together for a very long time, and it seems like the past 3 years have been a massive turning point for our relationship. We faced a lot of low points together and we watched each other deal with things that really shook us to our core. We have both grown together. We aren’t the same people we were when we said “I do” on November 23rd 2010.
We only have one life to live, and if you are going to devote your life to one partner you better make damn sure that it’s a life that you will be happy in. Always remember that your partner isn’t just your husband or wife, they are a person FIRST. Getting married is like, you and your partner have decided to paint on a huge canvas together. If you work together, you can create something truly amazing!